Author: Steve Catts, DadTired Board Member
Life can be like buying a car.
We get so excited about the cars we drive. Think back to the first car that took you to high school or college. If you were like me you wanted something that reflected your social status and your identity. If you were a car guy it needed to be a nice ride. If you were a hipster you bought a Subaru or a Prius. And if you were from the country you wanted a 4x4. Your car reflected to the world who you were.
Don’t buy a car alone!
We believe cars will bring us joy and happiness, but the truth is they are really just a means to get from point A to point B. Always take a brother with you when you go to buy a car. Preferably one who knows something about cars. While you are getting emotionally attached to the leather seats and dreaming about a road trip, he is opening the radiator cap and looking for any trace of oil. While you are admiring your reflection in the paint, he is wondering about that strange knocking sound coming from the engine. Your brother is not emotionally attached to the car. He isn’t going to drive it. No one is going to see him going out for a night on the town in it.
A brother is just there to give you a rational perspective on reality.
Buying a car is a good metaphor for life. We often get emotionally involved and make poor decisions. We have an argument with our wives and are convinced that we are right and that they need to see things our way. We get excited about a new job opportunity and fail to see the impact it may have on the rest of our family. We get depressed and despondent over circumstances and believe the future is bleak. We need brothers to help us get a grip on reality. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (NLT) We think we are rational beings, devoid of emotional winds blowing us like leaves in the fall, but the truth is we need others to help us see life clearly.
I wish I was a rock, but I’m not.
I am a broken sinner who forgets. I forget God loves me, I forget He gave my wife to me as a gift even when she thinks so differently than I do, I forget that seeking my own glory is a dead-end road. I need a brother to take a look under the hood of my life and speak truthfully to me.
Buying a car alone is a poor choice but living life alone is worse. Commit to finding a brother or two you can walk through life with. Look for one with the courage to speak honestly into your life. Invite them along on your journey.