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Jerrad: Hey guys I appreciate you listening to this [0:02] episode it's a little bit different than other episodes that we've done in fact I'm not sure we've ever done an episode like this in the five six years that we've been a ministry I already had an episode planned for us for today and it was recorded and it was already scheduled to be posted and I was actually on a airplane last night from Portland flying here to Dallas at the promise keepers event and um dude while I was on the plane I was like just like there was just I don't know I don't know how to describe it there was just I was just like stirring something was stirring in me I just felt like God was um I don't know how to describe it man if you've listened to podcast I’ve kind of tried to describe this before I don't know what it is but there was just like this something in my stomach and my chest I literally like it was physically I'm not like I don't want to like you know be overly dramatic [0:50] but I just I I literally had it like stand up and walk to the bathroom I didn't have to go to bathroom but I just had to light stand up because I just felt so like antsy I don't know antsy doesn't feel like it's the right word but it just feels like God has put this thing in me man and I'm struggling to even find the words but anyway I got to the hotel at like past midnight last night I couldn't sleep I woke up this morning they had a breakfast for these ministry leaders and so I went down and I had breakfast with all these Men's ministry leaders and uh I don't know man it just bear with me here because I really do want to share something really important but I'm just trying to like process out loud with you I'm in my hotel room I don't have my normal set up so if there's any weird sound issues I apologize [1:37] just bear with me but I'm down at breakfast and I'm with a bunch of guys were doing Men's ministry and encouraged by these guys in there asking like hey you know what are you who are you what do you do and and I'm telling them about DadTired and I said something this morning that I have never said before but I felt like it was it really resonated with the stirring that I've been feeling inside of me and I said I'm in a constant state with DadTired I'm in a constant state of being really really excited and really ridiculously frustrated [2:07] at the same time and when I said that it sound surprising and I've never even heard myself say that but it like felt accurate to what I'm feeling on one hand I'm ridiculously excited I'm so pumped about the ways God has used this ministry to help guys lead their family well God has done incredible things over the last 5-6 years like life changes families changed I really believe like already generations will be changed as a result of of what God has done in his ministry am so ridiculously excited about that and at the same time like ridiculously frustrated knowing all the other amazing things that God has in store for us that we could be doing that we have yet to do like I don't even feel like we haven't even scratched the surface so if you would just bear with me let me process this out loud [2:55] we’ve never done episode like this this is really kind of like if you if you consider yourself part of the DadTired family this episode is for you if you just like dude I just stumbled across this podcast I’m trying to figure out how to be a better dad maybe go back and listen to other episodes I don't know I just want to share my heart with you on something at the end of the day our mission is like super super clear we’re laser-focused on equipping men to lead their family well we want to help guys fall in love with Jesus so they can in turn help their families fall in love with Jesus we’re laser-focused on that and I'm going to be pretty frank here I think the reason that we have been quote-unquote successful [3:32] up until this point is because we have been meeting guys where they're at in 2021 frankly like we just we talk normal we aren't trying to be cheesy I know where you guys are at what you guys are actually dealing with because I'm probably dealing with the too or I have dealt with it too if you Google right now Christian resources for dads you're likely going to or even just like men's ministry you’re likely going to DadTired hopefully will pop up towards the top and I think that's because guys like you are tired of hearing all this it cheesy cliche things that the Christian Community is offering us and I just feel like you want to know how the good news of Jesus make sense for you when you're in the middle of a fight with your [4:14] wife or your struggling with paying the bills or the fact that you want to be the best dad in the world but you just yelled at your kids again or you can't shake your porn addiction or you want to lead your family to Jesus beyond just like reading them a bedtime devotional listening to some cheesy children's songs at night if you listening to this and you consider yourself a dad tired listener I'm imagining this is who you are you're like there's a part of you that's kind of you long for more in the Christian Community [4:43] like don't just give me Christian cheesy platitudes where we say the same kind of fluffy things and we do the same kind of Men's ministry things but we're not actually it doesn't make sense for my real life in 2021 Im im going to do that works and I go to work and friends may say cuss words maybe I even said cuss words or have a beer or I'm like trying to figure out you know how do I stop fighting with my wife about this or how do I stop worrying about money all the time or what is the state of politics how does that affect my life like how does the gospel infiltrate all of that and sometimes the church I feel like just misses it like we don't we don't we love to talk kind of heady theology give all each other these pats on the back and shakes on the hand and this is what we do but [5:27] we never have ever get down to like the real life like what does this look like in the weeds what does it look like to follow Jesus and to try to be his man who leads his family well in the weeds when you're just like day-to-day and so I'm just convinced that if you're listening to this if you consider yourself a DadTired listener you're a real dude you're trying your best to stumble your way toward Jesus and you want something that's real and makes sense for you and your day-to-day life and here's the crazy thing man there are thousands of you literally tens of thousands of guys who think like you and want the same thing you want and are listening to this right now the very same thing you're listening to their thousands of guys listening right now and you might feel alone at work or you might feel alone in your community or maybe even at your own church but you're not alone dude there's an army of us guys who are like-minded who are quietly trying to stumble our way forward maybe you feel like you're the only one who like thinks like this or you know you don't have any friends to process this stuff maybe talk about basketball or football or sports or you know politics or whatever but you don't have any guys that just like man what does it look like to have guys around me that are trying to follow Jesus and figure out what it looks like that that gospel infiltrate all these areas of our real lives [6:45] but you're not alone man there are literally thousands of us you may feel tired you may feel alone but there are thousands of us guys who are pushing forward together and this is why I feel frustrated because God is lit this fire in my belly and I know all the things that this community can be but we haven't even scratched the surface like dude just imagine if the thousands of us right now who are listening didn't just listen by ourselves in our cars while we're working out or mowing the lawn or going on a walk whatever but we actually like rose up together I know I'm throwing a lot at you right now so just bear with me but here's the stuff I dream about and this is why I say I'm frustrated I dream about us the DadTired community like young dads who are thinking about life and the gospel in 2021 [7:39] I dream about us meeting together in houses in restaurants in coffee shops wherever and going through like super solid material together that equips us to be spiritual leaders but also gives us a place to be held accountable to the men we know God's calling us to be like where we’re talking about really real things I picture us going on mission trips together and serving alongside of each other around the world I picture us leading our wives and our kids like doing family mission trips around the world I picture the thousands of us fighting and figuring out how to step into the fatherlessness problem and starting to be spiritual leaders for kids who don't even have dads the kids on your your kids baseball team or basketball team or whatever the kids that don't have a dad around the kids in the cities who their dad bailed what does it look like for us the DadTired community to into that problem to feel equipped to not just lead our kids to Jesus but to lead these other kids to Jesus to be the spiritual leader for them [8:35] you want to talk about like how to change a country it's not just policy changes and politicians it's dudes you and I the thousands of us who are done being bored with just you know fantasy football and buying toys and saving up for the next thing or the next vacation it's the thousands of us starting to step into crazy Kingdom adventures that God has for us [8:59] I dream about being a ministry that practically equips men how to do that deep in my heart I'm dreaming about being a ministry that puts on workshops where dad's can learn how to lead their family well putting free workshops in communities where guys have never been taught how to be dads but desperately want to break the fatherlessness cycle in their family guys who were like I didn't have a dad around I don't know what it looks like to be at the spiritual leader my home I don't even know what it looks like to be a good husband and to stick around but I want to like what would it look like for us to go all these neighborhoods inner-city neighborhoods affluent neighborhoods it doesn't matter all these neighborhoods in just saying listen let's spend the day together as men we’ll eat food but we'll talk really practically what is it look like for us to band together to be the men Gods called us to be [9:43] to break the cycles of fatherlessness to break the cycles of dads who thought providing was just putting the paycheck into a bank account or food on the table but men who are holistic and their approach to spiritual leadership guys who are leading their family emotionally spiritually physically they think of protection of their family more than just like I've got a good security camera system but they're like thinking through how do I lead my family in every sense of the word like what would it look like to be a ministry that equips men really practically to do that I dream about putting on camps around the country where we let our kids come like bring your kids let your kids have a blast while we were spending time together as men chasing hard after Jesus imagine that imagine that we could just do these camps all over the country we can even invite foster kids to come be part of it if they don't have a dad to take them but you bring kids you let the kids have fun it’s crazy like good the kids are having the time of their lives and while the kids are having so much fun and getting to know other kids around the country us as men we are spending time chasing after Jesus [10:46] were singing our lungs out to the father were praying desperately for him to radically change us and then use us for his glory I dream about like being a ministry that has marriage retreats where husbands and wives get together they strategically plan how we want to train our kids in order for them to be sent out to the world as passionate Jesus followers imagine that imagine you just like every year you just booked out a retreat you and your wife you get together and it was very you had a very strategic plan like okay in the over this next year here's what it's going to look like for us to have a plan to disciple and to train our kids so that we're sending them out into the world we’re not just trying to survive the next week trying to survive the next year hoping we can get through it and all the craziness that the world has to offer but we’re like very strategic this is what it looks like for us to be a couple together united by the spirit of God training our kids equipping our kids discipling our kids so that we're sending them out into the world [11:45] dude I could go on and on I'm not kidding when I say God is giving me such a vision for what this ministry can be I get like this is what I was saying when I was on the plane last night I've been feeling this for a long time but I'm in the plane last night and I'm just like writing down all these ideas and dreams of what Dad tired could be and you know and then I come to this thing and I get to meet other ministry leaders and I see they’ve got like teams and they got like whole they’ve got like a whole team in place and structures in place and budgets and they're like I'm here by myself and that's what's so frustrating I can't do this alone man I can't do this all by myself I can't do this while my wife works three days a week full time as a nurse trying to provide for our family I can't do this without a team without staff without dudes like you willing to give your time your talent your resources and honestly man I've had these dreams in my heart for a long time I've never shared them with you because secretly I'm afraid that when I when I tell you guys about this and I get excited about this stuff that we’ll never actually be able to do it [12:46] I get afraid that I'm like I'll pour out all these dreams that Gods laid on my heart and you'll get excited you'll hear this right now like yeah dude I want to do that I want to lead my family on mission trips I want to go on trips with guys and I want to go to these workshops and retreats and I want to go through materials and study different stuff that we can be equipped to be the men of our home like I can tell if I share this stuff I know guys will get excited I get frustrated or I get scared that I'm going to share all this and it we’ll never actually be able to do it right now and this is just me being honest with you man right now we have 28 guys 28 guys who donate every month to DadTired and we have a total of $988 a month coming in to the ministry 28 guys $988 a month I hate bringing up money because I just know how weird things get and I never want you guys like question my intentions about why I do this ministry but dude I'm not asking you to help me put my kids in college I’m not asking you help me buy a new car or something fancy I'm asking you if this is the vision God has given me and it resonates with you would you join me if what I'm talking about like this idea that thousands of men [14:02] are coming together united to see the country change to see the world change for generations to come that we're equipping each other that were holding each other accountable that were stepping into the needs of the world the fatherlessness of the world we're stepping into areas where men are typically passive in the church they don't show up in the church and instead of that we’re like no man we're going to lead we're going to lead our churches we're going to lead our communities if that resonates with you if you get fired up when you think about the stuff then dude let's let's change the world together man like I'm pleading with you let's do it together and I honestly feel that I've taken DadTired as far as I can possibly take it by myself for the last six years I've been doing DadTired and really in many ways you know I've got some people who’ve come around me I've got an amazing board of directors I have some people that we hire out kind of on contracts from time to time graphic designers or tech stuff that I don't know but we don't have any other staff it’s me and I'm just like I can't do this I can't take this any further by myself I need you to join me I sincerely believe we're at 1% of what God has for this ministry [15:15] what he has for us what he has for that like co-worker of yours that he's trying to chase after and he wants to use you to see that co-worker of yours come to know Christ that neighbor of yours that Jesus is going to be saving and he wants to use you to be part of it that kid on your kids sports team who doesn't know what it's like to have a dad around or has no idea what spiritual leadership looks like like God is going to use this ministry to equip men to not just reach you and your family but your neighbors in your community and these other kids I sincerely believe that in the depths of my heart I'm not talking about just like fun little events some cool PDFs yes I want to do events where you have fun and I want to give you PDFs where you can study and meet together and go through good material but I’m talking much bigger like crazy Kingdom stuff massive chunks of Heaven coming to Earth I'm terrified talking like this I'm terrified of pouring my heart out and dreaming like this and then looking dumb if we can't do it [16:23] this is why I’ve like I didn't want to talk like this I didn’t want to do this podcast episode so even before I hit record I was like saying I just felt this voice like don't do it and you're this is dumb don't do it guys are going to think you're whatever I don’t know man I just feel like I have to share this stuff I've been telling you guys for years whether it's in the books or podcasts like be scared for the glory of God I've always been telling you guys that like that's not be bored and then who to look for adventure in dumb stuff like let's be men who are scared for the glory of God who step into things that God's calling us to that scare us a little bit and so this is me [17:03] being scared for the glory of God if any of this resonates with you then join us man I don't just want your money I want brothers I want men who are all in on this vision I want you to very seriously consider would you if you're listening this and you're like it stirs in you and you feel like God has put that same thing in your heart like I want to be part of this would you consider giving monthly to this ministry again I'm not asking you to fund Jared's paycheck I'm asking you to join us and to see God do crazy things I'm not sure of another ministry and if there are let me know but I'm not sure of another ministry in 2021 that is reaching young men dads young dads young husband's right where they're at with the gospel and I really believe we've only scratched the surface and if you like man I want to be part of this I want to be part of this movement then dude would you consider being one of the guys who joins us monthly again we have 28 guys giving $988 a month I want to see that grow because I want to see the kingdom of God move into massive areas massive chunks of Heaven [18:14] coming down to earth I want to see a team of people an army of men moving forward but I don't just want your money man I want you to be ready like I want all of you I want you to be ready like if I'm ever like all right man we're going to do like we're going to have these DadTired groups meeting throughout the weeks all over the country and world and I need guys who will facilitate that I want you to lead those man I want you to step in and say okay I don't know maybe I'm scared of leading but I'm going to do it I mean that sincerely I don't just want your money I want guys who are like no I believe in this mission I'm all in I’ll facilitate I'll lead I'll dive in I'll lead a group of guys in my neighborhood or my city I want you to like if we put on a workshop I want you to show up I want you to bring friends and when you help facilitate that I want you to help think about the fatherlessness issue in your community you know maybe you’ve never coached anything but you're like alright Jerrad you know as a ministry help me figure out what does it look like to coach a team's not just so I go in there as a coach of a baseball or soccer or whatever [19:13] but because I'm going in there looking I'm see myself as a missionary and I’m thinking what kid is God trying to save and rescue and he's going to use me to be part of it so maybe I'm coaching t-ball but I'm actually seeing myself as a missionary and we want to train men and equip men to see themselves as missionaries to really think through this kind of stuff and I want you to be part of that I want you to step up when I say alright we're going to go on a trip we’re going to go to serve these people in Africa or South America or Asia or whatever we're going to go equip other dads in these other countries or we're just going to learn from other dads in these other countries [19:45] I want you to say I'll go I’ll help lead I'll bring my kids I'll bring my wife whatever I want dudes who are all in so man is uncomfortable is this is for me I'm just going ask you to be part of it we have a giving page dadtired.com/give it's not fancy there's nothing fancy about it in fact I felt like before I even said any of this I should change the website because there's nothing fancy about it I want to do like cool videos on it and testimonials and share all the things that DadTireds done and the numbers and all that but whatever you know I think you guys know what I'm trying to say right now I think you get what where I'm trying to where I feel like God is leading us the truth is man you and I are going to be gone soon [20:31] and that's actually what I was going to talk about originally on today's podcast I was going to hit on this topic a little bit so I'll do that next week but bro you and I are going to be dead soon that's like the reality just to put it frankly we're going to be dead soon for most of us our life is halfway over and lets not just spend it on dumb stuff man and I'm so guilty of this getting distracted by dumb things things that don't matter in 30 years and five years it won't even matter that a lot of the things that we’re chasing let's do something worthwhile as a group of men [21:06] like let's let's have the world take notice lets have the world be like holy cow who are these young dads who are stepping into the stuff let's raise kids who change the world lets be dads and husbands who change the world lets help other men rise up to be the men God's calling them to be if youre in if that resonates with you go to dadtired.com/give also shoot me an e-mail it's hard to like talk in front I'm literally sitting in a hotel room I have three pillows in front of my face so that I'm not like yelling at that people in the room next door I'm sure they're probably knocking on the door like who the heck are you talking to in there by yourself but sometimes it's hard to like talk to your computer by yourself and you’re like you know there's no room to read i’m just like and this is part of why I'm just like scared to record this does this resonate with anyone is it just me if resonates with you man shoot me an e-mail to even if it just says I'm in [22:00] you know but dude I love you thanks for letting me be scared with you for the glory of God lets be broken but humble dudes who stumble our way forward and change this country change the world together I love you man, later.