Each week we feature a new dad from our community, in a segment called #FeaturedFatherFriday
Tell us about yourself
Hey guys, my name is Andrew Miller! (Hey Andrew!) I'm thirty years young and have been married to my beautiful wife Ruth for coming up on 8 years. We've got 4 kids in our tribe: Natalie (6 years), James (5 years), Silas (4 years), and Luna (7 months). We live just outside Houston where I work as a manager for a municipal utility district. In my spare time when I'm not wrangling the kids from all corners of the house to try and clean their rooms, I like to read books, play with a foundry I built in my garage, or research the newest tech in small unmanned aircraft systems (i.e. drones).
What has been your most memorable #Dadtired moment?
I think my best #DadTired moment has been seeing the impact my youngest had on my other kids. Things could get pretty crazy just with the three of them, but when Luna came into the picture there was an immediate, perceptible shift in the family dynamic. They became much more helpful around the house, wanting to do anything and everything for their little sister - even clean their rooms! They're definitely still toddlers and we have our good days and bad days, but witnessing the way they interact with her just warms my heart and is one of those little confirmations that we must be doing something right!
Best parenting advice you've ever received?
"The days are long, but the years are short." I first heard this when our oldest was born, and man has it proven true! It's very easy to get caught up in the day-to-day mundane aspects of life with 4 kids: cleaning up whatever new chaos they've wrought upon the house, the hour-long routine to get everyone bathed and down for the night, the repeated (and repeated... and repeated...) trips to their rooms to remind them it's time to sleep not time to play, the constant discussions on how they're supposed to behave and what the rules of the house are... But then, almost overnight... They're 6 years old and asking how your day went at work because they know things have been hard lately (even though you never explicitly told them that, they just picked up on it)... They're 5 years (going on 30) as they explain their passion for the solar system and how rockets work and what astronauts need to live in space... They're 4 years old and their baby talk has disappeared and been replaced with cohesive sentences about dinosaurs and superheroes... They're 7 months old and sitting up, engaged with their surroundings, noticeably reacting to their sister's silly antics or reaching out to you when they hear your voice as you return home from work... The days may be long, but the years really are short. Be intentional about making memories together, promoting their growth to self-sufficiency, & most importantly pointing them towards Christ.
What area of your life do you want to be more like Jesus? How do you plan on getting there?
The area I've been convicted on lately has been spiritual leadership. I accepted Christ at a young age, but I had an epiphany in college that I had been relying on my parent's faith rather than developing my own relationship with Christ. I really dove in head first and enjoyed spending my free time in the Bible and studying and praying. Fast forward a decade, and I realize that while I've not abandoned my faith or family, I've also not been actively nurturing them. Some of that realization has come through tough conversations with my loving wife who reminds me to lead our family spiritually with the same fervor with which I tackle my work responsibilities (talk about convicting!), some of that realization has come through the accountability relationships I've been blessed with from my college friends who've remained close through the years, and some of that realization has come through being a part of this community (love you guys!) I want to be the best husband, best father I can be and ultimately that is brought about through a better relationship with my heavenly Father. Before I could even date Ruth, her dad sat me down and drew a triangle on a piece of paper. At the top he wrote "God", then placed my wife and me on opposite corners. He told me that if I only pursued Ruth, my relationship with God would suffer and I wouldn't be able to accomplish everything God had in store for me. However, if I pursue God and Ruth pursued God, we would be fulfilled in Him and subsequently find ourselves closer to each other as well. I've got a note on my desk that says "A New Chapter: 3/7/18." (I'm eventually going to smith an EDC medal, but I'm #DadTired and haven't found the time or energy yet!) Like the altars the Israelites would build in the Old Testament, I'm using it as a symbol to remind me of what God has accomplished to this point in my life and an inspiration to more actively pursue Him in this next chapter. I'm working on engaging with the men in my church so I've got more in-person accountability and I'm also just trying to be more intentional with my schedule (less time on my phone when at home, taking my full lunch break at work and investing that time in Bible study if I finish eating quickly, listening to more uplifting/encouraging music and podcasts when I'm in my car driving).
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