Most Christian couples say that they place a high value on "Spiritual Intimacy". Meaning, they want to be connected with their spouse when it comes to spiritual things. They have a high desire to go to church together, pray together, read the Bible together, and talk about God together.
And yet, this doesn't happen. In fact, most couples, despite really wanting this to be a strong area of their relationship, report it being one of the weakest. Even the most seasoned Christian couples admit that they aren't spiritually connected with their spouse.
As men, this is often an area of insecurity. Ask us to grill some burgers, take the kids fishing 🎣, or change the oil, and we'll do it without hesitation. Maybe even with some pride. But ask us about spiritual things, and we clam up. Mainly because it's an area where most men feel incompetent. And, well, we don't really like to be incompetent.
Men- let me shoot straight with you. Your wife doesn't want you to be Mr. Sunday School Sam. She doesn't care how many scriptures you can memorize, or how much theology you can spout out.
She wants you to be real. To be authentic. To have honest conversations.
It's ok to say, "Babe, I don't really know what I'm doing, but I want us to be closer, spiritually." In fact, she'd probably love that.
Questions like, "How can I be praying for you?", "Is there anything I can do to help your relationship with God", and "When do you feel closest to God?" will go a LONG way.
She doesn't need an expert. She needs a humble leader.
.You can hear more on this topic on today's podcast.